Wanting and Needing are Different Things
Desires and needs are not the same thing. You can need something without
desiring it. And you can desire something without needing it. Rights are based
on needs not desires. You need shelter and food and love so you have a right to
these things. Simplicity is a right. Anything extra is an accessory. If anybody
wants you to believe in a complicated faith or if things are not kept as simple
as possible then your rights are being contravened.
What are wants? They are just desires.
I want a million dollars. Unless I decide to go out and get it, that is not
really wanting.
Being attracted to having a million dollars is not wanting. If I really wanted
it, I would not sit there but try. True wanting is experiencing the attraction
and acting on it.
Wanting something means you feel deprived and you feel a lack.
Often when we want something, we are more focused on the sense of lack than we
are on the joy of receiving what we want. That struggle and pain can put you off
seeking fulfilment. It makes you wonder if the goal is worth it. It stresses you
and when you are tormented by desire for something you run the risk of driving
it away and ending up with massive disappointment. It would be better to have as
much joy as you can whatever happens. And when you are free enough from craving,
you will find that the good things come to you more naturally. If you want too
much to sell your car, it will be harder to get rid of it. Be more relaxed and
joyful and the sale will happen. This philosophy is simply about accepting and
looking for the good in what you cannot change.
Some use, "It is never necessary for me to have what I do not want," as an
affirmation. An affirmation is a saying you use over and over to program
yourself to feel better. It is only a sensible affirmation if you believe that
you can want what you have and cease wanting what you do not have. In that
spirit, it is a good affirmation.
People think that if you desire something, that shows that you are experiencing
a lack that you need or want fulfilled. Not necessarily. You can for example
have the best house in the universe and still desire an extension for it. There
is no real lack there - you just make a lack in your own mind.
Also, you can desire the extension and you can desire not getting it at the same
time. So it seems that there is no lack. But what you really have is a lack
balanced by a non-lack. A balanced lack is still a lack.
If you don't know why you want something, you risk being disappointed when you
get it. It is like a husband loving his wife more than anything and not
realising it. He could end up unhappy when he is with her. You can be blessed
and the blessings may be little or no good to you because of your failure to
recognise the blessings.
Think of a drink. You have had enough. You want this drink. You take it. But you
do not need it. The next day when you are sick and depressed because of what it
did to your body you realise that.