TOXIC POSITIVITY IS ABOUT YOU TRYING TO SILENCE THE PAIN OF THE OTHER SO YOU CAN HAVE YOUR BEAMING SMILE

Toxic Positivity is very rife in religious and occult circles.  It is already there inherently and in the background.  It emerges and like an infection does untold harm.

If you are in terrible pain, the person who goes on about positivity is not listening to you and leaving you to your pain and making it worse while telling themselves that they are helping.

Examples.

Everything happens for a reason.

One day you will understand why this terrible thing was allowed by God to happen.

It will not always hurt like this.

Look on the bright side.

It could be worse.

Be grateful for what you do have and concentrate on that.

God knows exactly how you feel and I feel God has sent me to you.

This is how the religious person sees it. It is as bad as the “I know how you feel”

Good vibes only.

True compassion is the alternative to all this self-serving patronising talk.

I see you.

I hear you.

I accept you as you are.

This is a tough time.

How may I support you?

I am here for you.

You are not alone.

If you like then tell me more about it.

Feel what you need to feel. Feelings are not right or wrong, they are just feelings.

Telling a person that you are praying for them is terrible when you should be saying those things instead.  Promoting the idea of a loving God would mean you are shifting it to God.  So it becomes, "God sees you.  God hears you.  You are not alone for the person who really counts, God, is there."  It is toxic in an underhand way.  To say "God loves you" is saying, "Remember that it could be worse only God is looking after you."  If somebody lost an arm in an accident the word for you if you tell them at least they have the other one is "Evil."