People praying for the sick and the dying to get better can happen because they don't care enough and want to feel as if they are doing something.
PROBLEM: People praying for the sick and the dying to get better can
happen because they don't care enough and want to feel as if they are doing
something. Prayer can help you feel good or better about doing nothing.
It can involve feeling good about asking God to help though he will do nothing.
Then it is feeling good about God doing nothing. It is like how you know
the little children next door need urgent help so you ring the social worker you
know who is useless just so that you can feel good at getting rid of the feeling
of responsibility for the children's plight. You just ask the useless God
to do something and that takes away your feeling of responsibility. Now
you can be smug and feel you are so good.
PRAYER IS NOT OF GREAT IMPORTANCE
It is not prayer that matters but what you are at heart. If you have good will
in your heart it matters. Good will will get you to help and if it is not there
prayer will do nothing to get you. Prayer does not. Only religious
superstition disagrees.
In the light of the teaching that prayer is a relationship with God and God is
to be loved totally, Catholics say that ultimately prayer is what matters most.
Prayer should be about a person trying to change himself or herself. If prayer
is about change then it follows that it is not the words and the images of holy
things in your mind that matter but the heart. You would pray with your heart by
doing actions of heartfelt love for the sick and the poor. Praying for the sick
then is disgusting unless you are able to do something for the sick and trying
to. Praying for the sick would imply you don't really care about them much or
enough. Praying for the sick in a chapel or convent instead of going to the
hospital then shows you want to tell yourself you care more when you don't. It
is using prayer to delude yourself that you are wonderful. And thus you feed
your smug ego.
PRAYING FOR OTHERS BECAUSE YOU DON'T CARE ENOUGH
It is natural to feel responsible when others suffer around you even if you have
done nothing directly to hurt them or to directly cause that state of affairs.
If they need help they need it from you and if you had never done anything to
hurt them that does not mean you have no responsibility for them now of some
kind. We never do enough to make the world a better place. You will get
relief from the feeling of responsibility and feel at peace if you pray. Why?
Because when you pray you make God responsible and you remind yourself that if
he makes all things then he is ultimately responsible. You ask him to do
something about the suffering. That is a rationalisation that you engage
yourself in to protect yourself from the truth. If God does nothing you
think you have taken care of your end. You asked him to do something and
you see that as taking responsibility.
Thus prayer is really an insult to those who suffer because of you or who you
think suffer because of you.
THE BEST MIGHT NOT BE THAT GREAT!
God knows what is best but too many see best as good. Best might be only a
little better than the alternatives. Prayer’s attraction is based on the
illusion that best is a great thing. Nobody has the right to ask for the best
for somebody else for their version of the best will be coloured. Only I can ask
God or anybody for the best for me. I have the chance to know. But even then I
may be wrong. Praying for another person is just do-gooder hypocrisy.
Despite the fancy religious teachings about prayer, in reality prayer is just an
irrational, "I wished and therefore I got", kind of outlook. If such
irrationality is good then why bother helping anybody? Why not just pray for
them? Prayer encourages such irrationality. If it does some good, we must
remember that the good is often the enemy of the best.
The outlook is not for the best so the results cannot be as good as you imagine!
PITY
Pity is patronising and a sign of looking down upon the other person. That is
why people pity but do not do anything productive to help those who they pity.
Like mercy, it implies you are superior in rank, wisdom and morals, to those who
you have mercy on. Does faith in God encourage pity? Yes. You have pity on those
who cannot be helped. And you express that pity in prayer and get a nice
superior and sanctimonious glow.