LET YOUR GOD MIND HIS OWN BUSINESS!
Religion says that God made us from absolutely nothing so we owe him something back. We owe it to him to be the one who helps others. When others suffer, we can help them and do God's work. This assumes he is like a person enough to be owed anything back. The only views of God worth considering make him out to be somehow non-personal. Catholicism to be fair affirms this and says that the three persons in God, are not literal persons. They are nothing like human beings though one of them became man. It also assumes he wants anything back. It assumes that we defeat God's purpose by not helping which contradicts the notion that God only allows evil as a means to do a greater good.
If there is a God, he must be self-sufficient. He must
have no needs. He has no need for your obedience to him. Therefore it is none of
his business what you do. The good or harm you do is between you and those you
do it for or against. God should be neutral about what I do. As
neutral means you care and it is cancelled out by not caring it follows that
himself can only be neutral. To care is evil for it is none of his
business. To not care is evil too in a different way. He cannot be
truly good so that is another reason for him to keep his nose out. He
cannot be anything different any more than a stone can become a human being.
What you do is none of God's business!
Forgiving is regarding an evil person as no longer evil.
It involves a change of attitude towards the person. What you think of the
person is not the same as what you feel towards the person. As long as you try
to avoid having the bad feelings, the bad feelings do not indicate that you have
failed to forgive them.
Do not follow Gods who threaten that you will not be forgiven if you fail to
forgive! They are bullies! Jesus did it and so he was a bully. Nobody has the
right to tell you that God will not forgive you unless you forgive. That is a
denial that you have the right and dignity of a free agent. It threatens you
with bad consequences if you don't forgive and tells you that you deserve
alienation from God. The God of Christianity shows plenty of concern for getting
you to forgive but less concern for helping you deal with the bad feelings that
you may still have to contend with. This is a God of law not love.
If God is all-perfect and all-powerful what can there be
for him to forgive? The wrongdoing didn't do him any harm.
When we hurt another person, we must not go to a God for
forgiveness. We must go to the person. The offence is between us and the person.
It's none of God's business. You don't apologise to the judge or the state for
shoplifting. You apologise to those you stole from.
Perhaps God made the person you hurt and so you owe God
an apology and have to request his forgiveness for hurting his property? An
all-powerful God has to own all things because he makes them and keeps them in
existence. We declare that we own ourselves for there is no God but us. We are
our own God. To say we are God's property is demeaning. If God has given us the
gift of life, the gift is ours and what we do with it is none of his affair.
We must not forgive or work for our "emotional healing of
past hurts" on the basis that we hate sin and want to feel some peace. No
wrongdoing is to be hated for it is not all bad. Hating it is hypocritically
blinding oneself to the praiseworthy side. See wrongdoing as a form of good that
falls short of how good it could be and you won't have hate to deal with or
repress. The "evil" person is intending to do good but in the wrong way. Do not
lose sight of that.
We must not forgive or engage in "emotional healing of past hurts" merely or
mainly because some human authority or god commands it. You must do it because
you freely want to. In so far as you do it for an authority or god you don’t do
it for you or the person who hurt you. It’s not proper forgiveness or
self-adjustment no matter how it feels. Nobody can make you see that you would
be advised to forgive and heal the hurt of the hurt of the past, but yourself.
Nobody has the right to command it not even God. You
cannot forgive or work to gain "emotional healing of past hurts" unless you see
yourself as your God and that there is no other God over your life with whom you
have to do.
We must forgive and accept "emotional healing of past
hurts" simply because it is good and because we want to. In other words, we do
them because we are good. We perform them for we want to show that we are good
by nature.
Sin is purely a religious and nonsensical concept
Sin is doing what is forbidden by the law of God. It is a
religious concept. The idea of a ruler God suggests that you must look at your
sins, confess them, regret them and repent them and try to avoid sin in the
future. And he is the one that you direct all that at. Never do it. Instead of
repenting your sins, look at your strengths and enjoy them and appreciate them.
With all that encouragement, many of your flaws will vanish. You will find that
you soon no longer need to try to improve for you are getting better and better
all the time. The doctrine of sin is about creating the harmful belief that
there is something wrong with you. Abandon it. Recognise that it is none of
God's business what you do. So you can't think in terms of sin. Instead of
calling something a sin call it doing unfair harm or misplaced good.
If I do wrong and God is worried about it, he has the
power to fix it and bring good out of it. It does him no harm for he is
all-powerful. It does not affect his happiness for he is perfect. Therefore it
is none of his affair.
It is none of my business what God thinks of me. I can't
make up God's mind for him therefore I must not do myself the injustice of
worrying about what he thinks. It is none of my business what others think of me
for the same reason. People think what they think - it is their right.
In normal ordinary secular life, there is enough that we
are led to think we "should" or "shouldn't" do without adding religious
authority figures into the mess to consider what they think we should or
shouldn't do. Take God. God refuses to see that when we make up our own minds
and nobody else can do it for us that it is none of his business what we think
of him. Our thoughts are not hurting him. If he chooses to get upset about what
we think then that is his problem. We didn't give him the power to get upset. He
makes himself upset - we didn't do it for him. People and religions who tell us
that we must worship God - that is, think he is wonderful - are out of line. If
God is offended when we insult him, then he is unjustly blaming us when it is
his own fault that he is upset! True self-esteem always involves asserting
yourself even at the expense of God and religion.
Sin is said to be missing the mark. But if you always hit
the mark you will never learn. You will be happier if you sometimes miss. You
must realise that you want to be like other people and don't want to be right
all the time. In a sense you never miss the mark. You learn about yourself when
you miss and you gain more happiness in the long run.
A law that does not pay you back for doing what it forbids is not a law at all. To assent to belief in God and sin is to call punishment on yourself and others.
It is a negative affirmation.
Know and love yourself and you will be free from the
perils of the words "should" and "ought to".
You are not a sinner and you do not need any saviour or
Church to pardon you
The belief that we are all sinners is false. We are
perfect as we are. If you have the "imperfection" of arrogance it is a
perfection that we can just change into healthy self-love. It is not a case of
you becoming more perfect but of you exchanging one kind of perfection for
another. If you have the imperfection of shyness, it can be good for helping you
see the needs of others better. If you have the imperfection of greed, you can
make it greed for doing good for others. So there are no real imperfections.
There are no sins. We talk about good and good that falls short of how good it
can be. But that is not accusing anybody of anything - it is observing that they
are wonderful and we trust them to do greater things. We are reminding them that
they can trust themselves.
To say we are all sinners is to accuse others of being
sinners. It is saying that they certainly deserve punishment from God and may
deserve to suffer for their sins in Hell or in Purgatory. This "may" is taking a
negative and punitive attitude towards them.
What about the dead? They are not respected when you
attend any service that is about atoning for their sins, doing penance for them
or praying for them that they may be pardoned. On the contrary, you are
denigrating them. You are lowering yourself by lowering your perception of them.
Let there be love and let it bind us all together. I am a
person not a sinner. You are the same.
If you feel you have to care for your child 24/7 instead
of trying to make time for yourself and having more freedom in looking after the
child, you will begin to feel bitter and angry towards the child.
Having emotional needs, the need to feel appreciated and
loved for example, is healthy and good. And that means it is okay to feel hurt
if they are not met by others or met by God. But is it right to encourage faith
in God when it leads to people feeling hurt that God has not met their needs?
That would be fine if there is a God but is there? If you help others, try to
feel that they owe you nothing. That way you will be happier if you get nothing
back. And you will be happy if you do. And apply that rule to God if you
believe.
We often take things personally when we should not.
Somebody may be grumpy with us and we are annoyed as we think it is a reflection
on us. Perhaps we should take some things personally - after all what they do to
us tells us how they feel about us and we cannot act as if people mistreating us
does not matter. But the reality is that taking things personally invites
resentment and anger which make the problem worse. If we think God is snubbing
us or not helping, imagine the damage that will do! It is so easy to think that
for if God exists then we deal with him all the time for he deals with us and he
knows what we deserve so he might feel he has to punish us.
The doctrine of loving the sinner and hating the sin as
if the two are unrelated, forces us to take things personally and too
personally. If you suffer maltreatment, the answer is to ask yourself if what
happened says something about you, about the other person, or both. You cannot
do that if you deny that sin shows what kind of person the sinner is. Trying to
separate sins from sinners creates bigger problems than admitting that the sin
is not a thing or just an action but a reflection on the person.
Somebody pushes you out of the way in a queue. You will feel awful if you reason, "That person has ill feelings for me and wants to ruin my day." You will feel less bad if you reason, "That person has ill feelings for whoever was going to be in his way. I just happened to be in the way." The emotional responses are different.
Love the sinner and hate the sin is a way of bullying a
person while trying to disempower them from fighting back. You are trying to
hate them sweetly so that you look good as you do bad to them while you nurse
your sweet but nasty grudge. Some think love the sinner and hate the sin makes
sense because, "Love the alcoholic but hate the alcoholism", makes sense. But
sinner means bad person while alcoholic means ill person so the two are not the
same. Love the sinner and hate the sin means more than just refusing to mistreat
the sinner. You can hate the sinner and not treat her badly.
Christians say that love is right because God loves - it
is his nature. They think this means it offends him if we fail to love so he is
entitled to an apology. But he is not. And why not say love is just right and
that is all there is to be said? Why we do we have to use the idea of God to
justify love? That means we won't love unless we invent a justification for it.
Christian love may do a good job of passing for love but it is not real love.
Is helping a sick baby good regardless of whether there is a God or not or what God thinks? If the answer is yes then goodness is independent of God and thus God cannot help you become good - only you can do that. Your journey to goodness is solely your own business not even God's. Instinct shouts yes at us so any attempt to say no will only make us stop finding joy in the good we do. Even if the answer is no, the no is not natural for us. And instinct is part of being good and to suppress it only makes a morality that does not agree with itself.
Realising that what you do is not even God's business is the only way to honesty
and sanity. Think in terms of, "I want to do x" not "I must do x for God
wants me to."
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