MARRIAGE IS WRONG AND IS NON-BINDING
Traditional marriage is definitely disgraceful as feminists and open-minded
people know.
The traditional view of marriage here means Christian marriage which is biblically defined as being a union between a man and woman for life that is about God for God does the joining together as in divine legislation and as in setting up body to fit body. It is very narrow for the reality is that a decent God will not claim to own you but make you to own yourself. The whole concept of traditional marriage is anti-woman and anti-humanist and therefore bigoted. Christian marriage is offensive enough as a concept but made worse by the Catholic idea that God has made marriage a sacrament - a means of channellling power from God to stay together. It makes a faulty concept sacred.
This page verifies that marriage which is according to
most people these days a regrettable thing to do and is old-fashioned is right.
Marriage is an attack above all on women. Marriage is about control despite the
romantic wrappings. Marriage should be a private arrangement if it should exist
at all. It should not concern the state and certainly it should not concern the
Church. That the state and the Church and society stick their noses in where
wedlock is concerned shows that they wish to apply some pressure to keep the
union together.
WHAT IS MARRIAGE??
Marriage is defined by the Christian faith and the state as the lifelong union
of one man and one woman for life to the exclusion of any other sexual partners.
Marriage is not a union of love for it is considered valid even if the couple
don’t particularly like one another.
Marriage then has no regard for the happiness of the couple. It is not created
for making people happy.
People will protest that they do want couples to be happy. But how could they
really care when they consider marriage binding and lawful even if it brings
most people misery?
Marriage then is just a law. It’s trying to force a man and woman to have sex
with nobody else as long as they are both alive. It doesn’t even let a wife get
impregnated by another man’s sperm even if her sterile husband wants her to do
it so that they might have a child.
If a woman has lots of nice brothers who would do anything for her then she has
the right to have a baby without having the father involved in the upbringing of
the child for the brothers will help her. Marriage implies that what she is
doing is inferior to what a man and woman having children in marriage. It
implies that she is in some way evil or sinful. It is clear that despite the
link between marriage and love, marriage puts rules before circumstances and
therefore before people. It’s vile. And especially when marriage contains no vow
to look after the children that may result from the union. It is entirely about
the right of the husband and wife to have sex together! Sex must be more
important to regulate than family! Marriage vows are valid if the husband and
wife intend to have children but put them up for adoption!
CONSUMMATION LAW MAKES MARRIAGE NONSENSE
The law of the land and the Church decree that the wedding vows do not marry any
couple until they have sexual intercourse. The once suffices and is called
consuming the marriage.
Objections:
Why are witnesses to the ceremony so necessary to have a real marriage when
nobody witnesses the marriage being activated? There is only a potential
marriage until the the consummation.
A woman who gets married will feel she cannot change her mind and refuse to have
sex with her husband. It puts pressure on her that could amount to her being
degraded by forcing herself to have sex.
Consummation isn't mentioned in the vows so how could the vows be binding?
A loveless physical union on the wedding night matters more than a couple who
can't have sex but whose hearts are so close that they are almost one.
What is consummation? Penetration. Ejaculation without condoms. Mutual orgasm?
Any of these. All these? Ejaculation without a condom can be dangerous for the
woman, AIDS, HIV, Hepatitis C and so on. It is possible that no consummation
takes place until the sperm of the man unites with the egg of his wife when
their bodies become one in the sense of producing a new life. The definition of
consummation is arbitrary. It is very biological.
The marriage is valid if the man runs off in the morning leaving an abandoned
wife just because he had sex with her.
People who can't have sex are denied the happiness of marriage.
Consummation implies that the wife will not own all that the man owns until she
has sex with him. This is prostitution.
MARRIAGE IS NOT ABOUT WHAT IS BEST FOR THE COUPLE
People get wed because they are led to believe that marriage is the bedrock of
society and will keep them together as a unit. This is a mistake for there is
nothing to stop you leaving the person and marriage is still encouraged in
societies where it means very little for it so easy to dissolve the marriage. It
follows then that marriage is not for creating a stable home for children at
all. It is persistence not marriage that is the bedrock and you don’t need
marriage for that. Marriage is still binding when the husband and wife don’t and
can’t like each other much and even when it affects the children so when family
rights activists tell you to create a traditional family for it is best don’t
buy it.
The Church rejects the view that the state recognises and supports marriage
because it is basically for the husband and wife to feel good about themselves.
If this view is right then gay couples should not be denied the rights that come
with marriage. The Church replies that marriage is not for making the husband
and wife feel good but mainly for making sure they stay together for having
children and rearing them. This is why the Church rules out marriage rights for
gays. It says that marriage is a heterosexual institution. The view that the
husband and wife have to be deeply in love for life and stay together for the
children is incorrect. All they have to do is get along and be co-operative.
Lots of marriages are dead and the husband and wife have their sexual fun with
other partners in discretion and put up a good front for the children. Marriage
is not for the sake of the children at all. Barren couples get married and older
couples past the age for having children can get married therefore marriage does
not need to be heterosexual. The law needs to force parents to look after their
children which need not entail marriage. At the time of writing, most of the
states in the USA have decreed that marriage is a heterosexual union – an
inexcusable attempt to force the Christian heterosexist agenda on the people
that must be stopped. The state does not ban adultery or cohabitation which
proves that the state knows fine well that marriage is unnecessary.
RAPE
Marriage – by its fruits you know it – has led to the
vast majority of all women giving their husband the right to rape them in
marriage. Many rapes have happened – maybe even more than rapes on the street.
Men have taken that right and used it. Is there a difference between
legalisation and decriminalisation? There is not in this case. Marriage is a
disgrace and it’s the principle of respect against women that is at stake thanks
to marriage. Marriage has never led to women being protected from rape
within marriage. It is only recently that some countries protect wives.
They create laws to impose protection on wives for marriage cannot and does not
keep them safe. As regards the principle and the harm marriage has
done, it is an insult to the victims of marriage to protect marriage or for a
woman to marry. Marriage has no justified existence as shown by its lack
of principle and bad fruits.
CONCLUSION
Marriage makes a laughing stock of morality and demeans the standing and value
of women.
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BIBLE VERSION USED
The Amplified Bible
