Marriage is a bad idea because:
Marriage infers that divorce is wrong and invalid. This is because marriage
makes the man and his wife closer to each other in family bonds. The woman is
closer to her husband than his own biological mother. You can’t really divorce
your mother though some try. She is still your mother so your wife is still your
wife after the divorce. Marriage is cruel for it denies that we are only human
and deserve a second chance. You are more likely to work at a marriage because
it ties you to your partner than because you really want to. That is its
purpose, to stop you doing what makes you happiest and fear should be the only
thing it is good for producing. Marriage is to be banned and replaced. Marriage
is anti-women for this lifelong bond is intended to give women less power to
fight off rape and abuse within marriage.
Marriage is a relationship protected by law. Often the law never really protects
it. But marriage is a declaration in principle that it should be protected
meaning that if somebody falls out of love or cheats he or she must be punished
suitably. Marriage is therefore not in itself an act of genuine respect for
trust or relationships.
If you really loved your partner you would not marry her
when such a huge number of marriages break up and when a higher pile of
marriages only look like marriages but are not for the couples keep up
appearances.
If you really loved your partner you would not give her half of what you have
just because she consumed the marriage by having sex with you once. That is
making a prostitute of her and yourself though the rule is that a marriage is
not real unless sex takes place.
If you really loved your partner you would not be trying to prevent her from
being happier with somebody else by trying to tie her down to you.
If you really loved your partner you would not be tying her to you for life
because of one act of sex to consume or validate the marriage.
If you really loved your partner and marriage is about having a family it
follows then that she does wrong if she leaves you because you have had a few
meaningless one-night-stands. The children come first.
Marriage insults people who prefer to live together outside of marriage. It
implies their lives are not ideal or even immoral. Don’t say that marriage is
right for you but not for everybody for when you see marriage as the perfect act
of love you are denying that.
If you are really committed then what do you need the permission of the Church
and state to have sex and children for? It is none of their business and you are
letting yourself be treated like a child. You are looking for their permission
because if you are committed you are committed and don’t need marriage. To get
married for a day out or to please your parents is getting married for the wrong
reason – it has to be for the permission.
How could you mean your vows when you know you could meet somebody you will love
more? There is nothing that can make you hate your partner as much as being tied
to her or him when that happens.
When you marry a person who you know may not show their real colours until after
the wedding it follows that when you took a risk like this and if the vows bind
you together validly then it is clear that nothing justifies divorce or
separation. If it is right to risk your health and happiness for somebody that
will definitely be only putting their best foot forward then it cannot be right
to divorce them. If your partner aged forty years overnight just before the
wedding you would soon do a runner. Marital love is not holy – it is just
another superficial farce.
We do not get married because of love because love is enjoying being kind to
another person so marriage is a sanctimonious sham. When we do good we do it to
gratify our feelings and not because it is the best thing to do even if it is. A
good person is just the person with the best habits. Love in the sense of caring
for another person because it is right does not exist therefore marriage does
not exist for it is an artificial union.
Traditionally, man is the head of woman in marriage. The Bible God teaches this
and the Church in its inability to be sincere usually hides it. Even if this
model is rejected, the woman will still be manipulated by the man. Society makes
men the stronger, the holders of all the winning cards. Men commit more crimes
and acts of violence than women. Their testosterone composition makes them
dangerous. There is more to be afraid of with a man than a woman. Marriage is
degrading to women for it ties them to men who may harm them.
Marriage is a religious superstition that should be afforded no protection by
the state for religious speculation and the workings of the state must be kept
separate and religion is bad news anyway. The state can’t bind a man to a woman
for there is no reason why they should not part when they get tired of each
other for it is only human decrees that they are defying. Ending a marriage
through divorce or separation is legal which proves the point. Only a God then
who regards you as his property can make marriage binding – the trouble with God
is that there is no evidence that he has spoken so the rules that supposedly
come from him are really just human rules. Whoever serves God is really just
serving man and not God. If the state law tries to protect marriage then it has
to punish those who break up marriages and who cheat because a law that carries
no penalty is no law at all. If marriage is so important then the punishment has
to be severe. Marriage is fascist for it opposes human rights and wants to
punish those who disregard its restrictions.
Many countries and states are under pressure from religion to strictly define
marriage as the legal and consummated union of one man and one woman. This not
only forbids gay marriage but the legal recognition of gay marriages that have
been sanctioned and recognised in other nations. This is discrimination. Two
women for example who love one another more than most heterosexual couplings do
are discriminated against. Better to stop the state recognising any marriage as
providing marriage for some and not all.
Religion goes on about the cohabitation effect. This is the notion that if a
couple live together unmarried and then marry that their marriage has a higher
chance of failure. Cohabitation is claimed to have a damaging effect on
marriage. Could it be that cohabitation for many is not about being really with
the other person but trying to be? If they have commitment issues then marriage
will only make it worse not better. It is marriage that is the problem not the
cohabitation as such. One would expect marriage to help the couple resist the
cohabitation effect if marriage were really the sacrament that the Catholic
Church pretends it is.
No marriage can be valid for there is too much pretence. The vows are only taken
by people who imagine they mean them.