Characteristics of healthy spirituality - assuming there is such a thing!
Some thinkers say that atheists and critics should not complain so much about religious faith for religious faith is more about transcendence than specific doctrines. It is about being bigger than the bad things that can happen and being bigger than what harm a person does to you by forgiving them. But transcendence itself is a specific religious doctrine. There is more. The content of a religion's doctrine is about different ways to transcend. For example, if you regard the Bible as infallible and from God you are hopefully transcending religious con artists. No two people agree on if a transcendence program really works meaning that at least one only imagines it does.
If you forgive that seems to be all that matters for transcending. So what do you need religious teachers, even a teacher God, for? If it matters most then you contradict yourself if you say God comes first.
Spiritual is about feeling there is something transcendent even magical.
For most people it is rather vague but it is enough to make them feel they are
their lives are worth something in a sense akin to religion. Religion is
more concrete. There can be spiritual without religion but there cannot be
religion without spiritual. Spiritual is really a cloak for emotional
experiences of a certain type spiritual is not the right word either but we will
say no more.
Spiritual rights are not the same as religious rights. Spiritual rights trump
religious rights. That is obvious for spiritual is more basic. If
you need water then you have a right to water. You do not have the right
to demand that the water comes from anywhere specific when the well in your
garden is perfectly good.
Healthy spirituality has to recognise that it is more of a right than religion as such is.
Here are some of the characteristics of Healthy
Spirituality.
Healthy Spirituality is:
1. Focusing on a personal relationship with the higher power one is a part of,
not religion. You create the higher power to help yourself. A real higher power
does not tell you want to do but invites compromise and supports you if you make
mistakes. That is what a relationship is.
2. Looking to the Law of Attraction, which is your own power, to meet the needs
for security and significance. The Law is based on the idea that if you open
yourself up to goodness you will receive goodness. For example, you will feel
good about being friendly to others. The more people will be drawn to you and
the better you will feel.
3. Growing in confidence as evidenced by walking into pain when it needs to be
faced.
4. Knowing that to help yourself is to bless others.
5. Serving others for the better self-esteem of all.
6. Being vulnerable and admitting your vulnerability. To admit it is a strength
not a weakness. It is a proof and a sign of trust and courage and it heals you.
7. A trusting atmosphere.
8. Celebrating uniqueness by recognizing people's spiritual gifts.
9. Relationships being the heart of everything.
10. People being taught to think.
11. Balanced thinking rather than extremes in black and white.
12. Non-defensive - you don't feel the desire to silence people who criticise
your spirituality or to bully them.
13. Non-judgmental - not looking for something to criticise but something to
praise.
14. Reality-based - eg, it does not have people imagine that they are helping
others by being locked away in a convent and praying for them.
15. Leaves us able to embrace our emotions.
16. Enables us to embrace our humanity as evidenced in its ability to allow for
mistakes.
17. Is lively and gives us a laugh.
COMMENT: All of this is sort of fine. And it is good that the Higher Power is
substituted for God. It is about feeling a relationship and experiencing one
with a better part of yourself. Not one thing in the list demands that you
believe in a supernatural spirit or soul.
The list is taking advantage of the fact that spirituality is a vague term.
Adler said that anything too private - he gave the example of thinking for
yourself when you go too far with it - can lead you far astray unless you
consider the society you are a part of and want to listen to it and support it
and be part of it. He could have said the same thing about spirituality. Today
it has become dangerously individualistic. Adler said that the best way to deal
with feelings of inferiority is to develop a sense of community and say and do
things to help and maintain and improve the community. He said it is okay to
want to be better than others but only if you do it in such a way that others
benefit. Keep it in line with the good of others. This is a humanistic approach
- doing it all for God will only make others feel used and exploited and
undervalued. It will only lead to you resorting to religion in order to
experience a superiority complex before God though you may be adept at hiding it
from others. Catholic priests are often largely remote characters and have no
wives or children are make good examples of that.
Envy is pain at the fortune of another and reflects that you feel dissatisfied
with what you have. It makes sense to assume that if God is giving the blessings
that envy should feel even worse.
Religion says we are created by God and we even use our free will because of him
and not in spite of him for he makes our freedom. They deny that we make
ourselves but say that we have some say in what we will do and will be. In fact
we have no say. God decides if I will have the choice to commit adultery and he
gives it to me. A bird in a cage has more freedom than that! Spirituality is no
use if belief in God is no use. Love the sinner hate the sin implies - "How dare
that disgusting and vile sin happen!" This will cause an emotional response of
anger and anger is unhealthy and destructive. And since love the sinner and hate
the sin is nonsense and based on the delusion that the problem is the person's
actions and not the person being evil as a person at least partly it follows
that if God gave us free will to love others then he was wasting his time. It is
not right to give us free will when we will abuse it more than use it. And any
good we do is based on a delusion and a lie so it is not as good as it looks. If
we are not well when we are so deluded then our goodness is not really goodness
from the heart.
There is no spirit. Spiritual health is just a form
of emotional health. Nothing spiritual happens but that is not what is
important. What is important is that the person is in touch with their own
feelings and able to heal them and direct them in positive ways.