Why do we have to hate the sin? Could we not just forgive it?
The view that we are not to hate the sin but to forgive the sin is incorrect. We
are to hate the sin but to forgive it. Even when we forgive the sin still
existed and is a hateful thing. Forgiving implies that the sin is hateful and
evil. So even when it is forgiven we are to continue hating it. The doctrine
makes real forgiveness impossible and instead of forgiveness you have
self-deceit.
Forgiveness means trusting again. You cannot give good to another person without
empowering them with it which means you trust them not to abuse it. You
can only love a person in so far as you trust them. Love for another is caused
by trusting that person. Therefore if you say you love the sinner but not her or
his sins then you are lying for by saying they are their sins you are saying you
don’t trust them in those things. It is clear then that if you see a person as a
sinner or yourself as a sinner then in so far as you see this in so far do you
hate them and yourself. Not being trusted hurts. If you don’t trust a person you
will wish their endeavours will go wrong for them and you may do or think you
should do things to stop them doing the things you dislike. The employee who is
not trusted will lose the job and suffer. Nothing can be more ridiculous than
saying you trust the sinner but not the sinner’s sins. It is the sinner you
mistrust not the sins. How can you mistrust sins? They are not people or robots.
Mistrust here is a personal feeling and verdict, it can only be personal and
involve persons.
Forgiveness denies the goodness and the rationality of God and backs up atheism.
It implies that since God wants us all to forgive that this means he wants
punishment banned on earth though the Bible and Jesus both advocated stern
punishments. If it is right to forgive, then it is wrong to punish. It has to be
one or the other for mercy is pleasant and punishing is not.
Forgiveness is an act of pity. The absurd thing about this is pitying somebody
that deliberately does wrong. How can you pity somebody that causes their evil
out of their own free will? Would it not be insulting them to pity their free
will as if they shouldn’t have it? Forgiveness then contradicts the rule of
condemning the sin but not the sinner. You don’t forgive sins though you say you
do. What you forgive is people because people are sinners. If the sin is
separate from the sinner then it is nonsense to speak of sinners. God cannot
pity the sinner if the sinner sins of his or her own free will so God can’t
forgive. That is all the attraction of God eliminated in a sentence. And it
means we can’t forgive either.
The Christian might say that pitying the sinner means you want to stop the
sinner from deliberately doing wrong because wrong is degrading and self-abuse.
If you can’t hate the sinner then how can you pity the sinner in this sense? To
pity the sinner for the sin in the sense they mean implies that the sinner and
the sin are one which is true but if the sin is something hateful and that
should not exist that tells us that the sinner should also not exist and be
hated.
To hate sin can result in the sinner being persecuted not for themselves but to
get at sin. It is true that hating sin is unpleasant but it is equally true that
Christianity does not see what is unpleasant as necessarily bad. You cannot
condemn hating sin as giving in to evil because you don’t have to let it make
you evil. The Church says that God sends hateful things like suffering and can
kill your beloved baby – if you love your baby you will hate its death – to make
us holier. If hating sin makes you evil then there simply cannot be a God or he
is evil if he exists. Hating evil is only hating a thing – it is not a hate that
does much harm. It only seeks to bring harm to evil which is only right for to
harm evil means doing good. When God says he comes first it follows that hating
evil comes first therefore if hating evil is bad for you then it is still the
right thing to do even if it lands you in the local psychiatric hospital within
a fortnight.
Trying to destroy sin by preaching and by love-bombing or threatening the
vengeance of God is really saying other people have no right to their opinion.
That is what causes human evil, people changing their mind about what is good
and seeing what is harmful as the best or good option under the circumstances.
There is no way you can love the sinner then if you hate sin for real hatred
despises the freedom and rights of others. That is one reason why Humanism does
not believe in converting people but in bringing people to the light so that
they may change themselves.
The Handbook of Christian Apologetics gives the solution to the problem of how
you can hate sin and love sinner as forgiveness which it sees as a miracle that
God causes us to perform for it is so unnatural and because we CANNOT love the
sinner and hate the sin so we need to be lifted above nature to be able to.
It says forgiveness does not condone wrongdoing or condemn it. But of course
forgiveness condemns for you cannot forgive without condemning and seeing the
person as deserving to suffer first and it always condemns for it has to be
maintained and kept up as it is not a once for all thing. You can’t pardon
without condemning. All forgiving then is self-righteous and is condemning the
sinner with the sin for it is not the sin you forgive but the sinner for it
makes no sense to forgive a sin as if it were not part of the sinner. Since
forgiveness always condemns it must condone the sin. For to condone a sin is to
say you condemn it but have no desire to see it punished but you want it
encouraged by going forward as if nothing has happened.
Christian morality is dangerous and the only solution is for the world to turn
away from it and towards Humanism which denies the hypocrisy of forgiveness and
replaces it with seeing sin as an illusion caused by an intellectual sickness.
The claim that forgiving people causes them to separate themselves from their
sins (page 127, Handbook of Christian Apologetics) would seem to justify
forgiveness. But that is too far-fetched of a claim. It is as silly as saying
that taking food that is probably poisoned from an enemy and eating it is not
killing yourself on the basis that your gracious acceptance will make him relent
and bring you an antidote. Most of us like to be a mixture of good and bad and
have people we will not speak to no matter who says they are decent people.
The Christian religion says that sins committed against us ought to be pardoned
solely for the love of Jesus Christ (page 33, Moral Philosophy). When it is not
for the sinner or for yourself then how could it be really forgiveness? It is
not forgiveness to forgive somebody just to get your hands on their money. It is
not peace you are after but the money. To condemn somebody’s sin as hateful is
to condemn them as hateful too. When you look at it this way it is even clearer
that hating sin is hating the sinner and if you say you love the sinner you are
deceiving yourself and showing your hatred for them by deceiving them for you do
not.
If God and his grace is the key to loving the sinner and hating the sin then how
come teaching the sinner that God exists is such a hateful and injurious act? It
is like trying to douse flames with petrol. The Church tells people that a God
that inspires fear will inspire little else in them so they present them with a
nice God. But what is the use of believing in a nice God when there are still
terrible things and possibly an eternal Hell that can happen? It is underhand to
present a nice God who lets bad things happen and people go to Hell when you
might as well believe in a bad one when the nice God is not going to be much of
a help. For the Church to pay tribute to the nice God theory and have so many
horrible doctrines is a clear admission that the doctrines are immoral and
should be abominated. And the Christians look forward to the battle of
Armageddon in which the final showdown between good and evil will take place
with the damned going to Hell forever. They say they do not fear these things.
But if they really loved others as themselves they would fear them for them. But
they are indifferent and to the degree that they are indifferent they refuse to
love for indifference is the real opposite of love. You have to like or love
somebody to some degree to be able to be hurt and upset enough by them to hate
them.
Being forgiven by God matters more than being happy and healthy in this world
for God comes first. Not only is he to be loved first but with ALL not some of
our being (Mark 12:29-34). So forgiveness comes before the things we really
value so logically being forgiven by others must come before them too. Therefore
nobody can forbid sternness and allege that friendliness and contentment are
better and entitle us not to be stern.
Jesus said if we do not forgive we will not be forgiven by the Heavenly Father
(Matthew 6:12-15). His game then was to blackmail us to forgive. But to pressure
people to forgive means that you are wearing down or quenching their power to
forgive. It would have been better for Jesus to say, “Forgive for its own sake
and not yours or God’s for there is no God”. To forgive for any other reason is
just as false as forgiving somebody for shooting you just because they are
blackmailing you to do so. It’s not real forgiveness. It only looks that way.
Suppose if somebody robs your house and puts the money on a bet for you that is
very likely to win and it does win. If you are given all the money you will feel
you have very little to forgive and it won’t bother you. Forgiveness then is not
about hating the sin. It is about not getting your own way and changing your
mind about being resentful about that. To forgive somebody for doing wrong is
one thing but to forgive somebody for doing something while you have no concern
for right and wrong is not loving forgiveness. It is not loving the sinner and
hating the sin. In actual fact, all the offences we take are not about right and
wrong. They are about us not getting our own way which is a different thing. It
is our feelings that we are worried about.
The way there are certain offences against us that we don’t mind and though we
say we disapprove of them technically we do not and there are others that rouse
our anger and hatred shows that there is something false about it when we
forgive sins or look for pardon from God. Our forgiveness then is just unjust
discrimination. It is not sins we forgive at all but our wounded feelings which
has nothing to do with sin for you can feel offended by somebody doing right by
you. Then we have the nerve to expect God to forgive us like we forgive!
When you can’t love your neighbour while hating his sins how can you love
yourself and hate your sins? Religion and belief in free will are destructive to
self-esteem and those who have no self-esteem or artificial self-esteem are
unable to care much for others. Those religionists who have real self-esteem are
only kidding themselves that they are religionists for they cannot believe in
free will and therefore they cannot believe in religion. They just go along with
it as if they do though they may not consciously see it.
Forgiveness for Christians is meant to unite them to God so it is a prayer
itself. Christian forgiveness is about reconciling you to God and you are meant
to be reconciled to others not for them or yourself but for God. Being
reconciled with them is just a means of being at peace with God for he commands
that you reconcile with your enemies. So you have to forgive because you hate
sin for the sake of God. Forgiveness is not one act but a series of acts or a
constantly maintained attitude – it has to be kept up. So you inflict the pain
of hate, just for the sake of God, on yourself. Christian forgiveness is
anything but love for love should be about yourself for all love starts with
self-love not God. Forgiveness, if bad in a Christian context, means that I am
using it as net of evil in which to catch my enemies for Christian forgiveness
is meant to make others forgiving too.
GODLY FORGIVENESS CONDONES THE CRIME
God wants us to forgive, according to the Church. The Church says that when you
forgive you do something so special and divine that the evil done against you
means nothing in comparison. The Church says the greatest good is not in being
preserved by God from evil but in facing evil head on and overcoming it and
rendering it powerless. All these considerations seek to encourage evil. They
have the attitude of encouragement in the sense that they make the evil nothing
and insignificant. The evil may be in the past but that does not entitle us to
declare it to be nothing.
Religion says we must hate the sin for Jesus said we should detest sin so much
that we would rather die or be mutilated than endure it. We are supposed to hate
the sin even after the sin is forgiven which raises the question of what good
forgiveness is then in that case! We are supposed to love the sinner and hate
the sin. If we hate the sinner, the Church would far rather we direct most of
the hatred towards the sin than towards the sinner. Forgiveness is about obeying
Jesus and not about making us healthier and happier.
Jesus commanded forgiveness and held that not forgiving was a wrong against the
evil person. The Christians should teach that evil person should hate being
hated by the victim more than anything else for it demeans his value and the
victim’s value. That is what should bother the evil person. So by forgiving we
do the evil person a favour. They say I should add “and ourselves one too”. But
we could let go of the bad feelings and still not forgive. The wife who punishes
her estranged husband by being happy and successful in life is enjoying being
unforgiving. She hates him in a way that does her no harm. So you forgive really
for the other person. Forgiving then is condoning.
Forgiving is the same thing as condoning a crime. Religion says you can forgive
and still send a person to jail. In that case, you are condoning the crime but
sending him to jail for the sake of society and not to punish him.
Forgiving removes the main purpose of punishment – it rewards the crime. If
forgiving is so good then punishment of any kind is revenge. This makes those
who have been abused feel they deserve all they get if they cannot forgive. This
is all the more disturbing if it the abuse took place in childhood.