WHY YOUR GODLINESS AND THE MYSTIQUE SURROUNDING IT SHOWS YOU ARE PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE
GOD AND JUSTICE
All emotional and psychological problems stem from our power to punish
ourselves. We make ourselves feel guilty and torment ourselves because of wrong
things we have done or that we have thought we have done. Also, if we endure
painful rejection from say a parent or a lover we may take it out on ourselves
for being flawed in the eyes of those who have turned us away.
People think that religion and corporal punishment never did them any harm. They
fail to realise that we all have aberrations and problems and these can arise
from religion and punishment and other things without us being able to see a
direct link. If we cannot see the link, we would have to suppose that there is
one. If we are wrong it doesn't matter. Better than doing nothing.
The purpose of true justice is not deterrence or reform but paying back evil for
evil. However that does not mean that justice can ignore deterrence or reform.
The criminal that truly reforms will want to face justice. He will thank those
who turn him in.
Punishment of a criminal say a rapist needs to help the victim reach a sense of
closure. Justice requires that the criminal suffer for the suffering he or she
has caused. If you jail a criminal simply to deter others from crime that is not
justice. If you jail a criminal to reform her or him that is not justice. What
should be happening is that the criminal is getting his or her just deserts but
in a way that helps deter others from crime and may help reform the criminal.
Justice is important to all including atheists. Justice when it returns evil for
evil is not good but it may be a necessary evil. If there is a God, then we have
to be just because it is just and because God commands us to be just. A
necessary evil is not something to be celebrated. God religion gives it an
additional sanction in the form of saying its the will of God and approved by
God. It is evil to seek additional ways of justifying necessary evil. The whole
point of necessary evil is that you give it as little justification as you can.
DANGER OF NOT BEING ABLE TO BE ANGRY WITH GOD
Anger is bad for you. If you feel angry, don’t go about pretending that you
don’t. That is bottling it up. It becomes a pressure cooker that can explode. In
addition to the anger, you endure the pressure of trying to keep the anger down
or to pretend it's not there.
Do not count to ten when provoked. That is bottling it up. Instead, put together
a plan that involves speaking up firmly. You are doing something about the
situation that is making you angry and that is best way to deal with it. The
reason pagan religions had human style gods and goddesses was that people could
direct anger and hatred towards them if their lives went all wrong. The gods
just had to take the abuse. Christianity with its notion of a perfect God has
robbed people of this. It would be better if people could take their anger out
on a pagan style god rather than on other people.
The angry Christian who rants against God ends up worse off. He adds the guilt
of attacking such a supposedly wonderful God to the list of emotional problems
he has.
Imagine a woman who has lost several children when they are babies. To tell her
that God took the babies home to Heaven is no reassurance. The woman if normal
will feel anger at God and at the suggestion that he took her babies. The
Church’s reassurance only urges her to bury her anger. She might bury it so well
that she will never discover it. All the while it will be eating at her and
poisoning her.
Is it worse to believe in a Good God who hurts you or lets you be hurt than to
blame vindictive pagan Gods? Yes is the answer.
GOD IDEA PROLONGS SUFFERING
Priests and all who encourage belief in God are thwarting the right of people to
accept the cruelties of life properly. The concept of God delays such
acceptance.
Perhaps if you pray to God you will get help to accept the situation?
But what if prayer is just expressing your despair to what you see as God? This
expressing is focusing on the fear and feeling it. Would it not be better to try
and deal with it? The person would not be praying unless he thought he could
suppress the fear temporarily at least. But that is only delaying dealing with
the problem.
Prayer is useless for God decides if he is going to do what you pray for or not.
And if he does it, it will be because it is right and not because you asked for
it even if you did. Prayer is done by people who want to feel they have done
good in praying. This is delusional. Whether God exists or not, it is
self-deception and pride.
People can suffer terrible forms of loss and depression. Many of them say they
seek comfort in the idea of a God who wishes to help them through this by giving
them strength. They say they sense that God is their friend and who understands
totally. None of what they say is true. What they want is a being who was unable
to stop the evil that happened but who is like a invisible human friend. Even if
we pretend we think God is very different from us and that he is Spirit not
human, we relate to him as if he were human. We make ourselves feel that he is a
better human being than us.
They might call the invisible source of comfort God. But they relate to it as if
it were not God but human and limited in power but unlimited in a will to
support. So it is not God.
Acceptance ends the worst forms of suffering. For example, if you are in
terrible pain you only make your suffering worse by refusing to accept it. You
will not end the pain by accepting it but you will end the pain of resentment
and possibly depression by accepting it. If you accept that you are in a prison
cell for life, you save yourself from a lot of inner turmoil and suffering. The
atheist and believer both agree that we need to accept the horrible situations
we cannot change. If you believe in God and the supernatural, you will have to
believe that there is a possibility of supernatural intervention getting you
out. Believers may accept the terrible things that happen them because they
think they sense at some level that God is going to take control and fix things.
This is not acceptance. It is downright cruel if there is no God. It is not
right to put the idea of God before people like that. Anyway, belief in God
reduces acceptance. Atheism requires that a person be brave and accept the
situation. Atheism is better for people than religion. Maybe not short-term but
certainly long-term.
Long-term is what matters.
Some theologians say we should believe that God chooses not to intervene when we
suffer so that we might grow in goodness and better ourselves. They deny that
God sends the evil. They mean he only lets the evil happen. He is not its direct
cause. Why are they so anxious to to deny that God directly does evil? They do
not really believe evil has a good justifiable purpose in God's plan. If they
did, it would not matter if he does harm directly or not. Besides, is a God who
lets evil happen to you worse than one who does evil to you? If God lets it
happen, then he refuses to control it. If he does it to us then he is in
control. The God who lets suffering befall us is the worst God.
Religion encourages us to look for meaning in suffering. If you believe in God
you simply have no choice but to believe that he lets us suffer for his
reasons. People like to feel their suffering is going to be used by God to do
good and so it has value. But they have been misled. What we must do is not
pretend that suffering serves a purpose. We must see it as useless and
despicable. We should look for the good that appears in the midst of suffering
and try and use what we can to make the best out of the situation. If we feel
that we must suffer for a purpose, that is giving away our sense of being in
control. It's degrading. If we look for the gems amid the rubbish and use them
we will feel in control. It will help us more than condoning suffering by
saying it is useful in God's plan. If we think that we will not fight as hard
against suffering when we suffer and we will be less keen and fighting suffering
for others. Belief in God is evil. How believers handle suffering and
sufferers looks good but it is a mockery of the right way to take care of it.
Nobody can accept properly that a tragedy has happened in their life unless they
see it for the the great evil it was. They need to see that. To tell them things
such as, God has a purpose for it is merely to obscure their perception. It is
to delay recovery. Perhaps they will not face it properly and deal with it -
that is no solution. People want to believe that there is a power that is
helping them to face a wholly useless evil. They do not want or need to believe
that the evil is diminished.
In the chapter called, Why Does God Tolerate Suffering?, we find the following
in relation to atheists or those who think that if there is a God, then God is
to be condemned for letting so much suffering happen, "The condemnation of God
by man is not based on the truth, but on arrogance, on an underhanded
conspiracy" (page 65, Crossing the Threshold of Hope, John Paul II, Jonathan
Cape, London, 1994). It is judging atheists as arrogant for blaming God if he
exists. It is fuelling antagonism against the atheists. And it is an insult to
the person who sees such horrendous suffering that they refuse to accept a God
who would tolerate it. They do that out of a wish to face the utter horror and
intolerability of the suffering. They do it out of courage and compassion.
Christianity teaches the evil doctrine that God is right to allow evil to happen
because it leads to a greater good. This is really watering down evil. Evil is
that which is utterly useless. Good cannot come out of it. The Church sees good
that appears IN SPITE OF EVIL and it classifies it as a result. It’s not a
result at all. Suffering does not make anybody a good or a better person.
You become a better person independent of it and in spite of it. Christians
should be firmly silenced for condoning their God who they say is right to allow
evil for such good things as freedom and wisdom and holiness come from it! If we
tolerate such offensiveness why be against anything anymore?
SUFFERING AND GOD
The Christian doctrine that suffering can lead us to God needs to be firmly but
gently corrected whenever it surfaces among the believers. The believer has to
want to reach God for God's own sake and not for the sake of happiness. Wanting
happiness is not wanting God. The only way to be sure there is no ulterior
motive in your heart is to suffer and want to suffer. Suffering is to be seen as
evil and abhorrent and useless. Good cannot come out of something so vile. It
only appears in spite of it. Suffering is the sense of meaningless existence. It
is despair. Pain and suffering are not the same. You can be happy and in a lot
of pain. There is an unmistakeable callousness in the person who says that
suffering leads to God. Also, to tell a suffering person that their suffering
has a purpose is only going to make them feel worse if that is possible. It is
insensitive to tell a person who experiences meaningless existence that their
suffering has a purpose. It’s not intended to help.
The sufferer will want to get rid of the suffering. That is what he or she cares
about not God. Suffering is an experience in which you perceive your existence
as futile and useless - there will be no concern for God in it. Sufferers are
pressured by religious society to feign devotion to God. But they are feigning.
PRAYING TO FORGIVE DOES NOT HELP
We are not completely in control of how we feel. If we have an emotional
problem, it takes time as well as effort to heal it.
Catholics feel that if they do not forgive they give the person who hurt them
the power to emotionally destroy them or damage them. This is nonsense. It is
blaming the other person for the bad results of one's own anger and hate. What
they are doing is giving themselves the power to hurt themselves and they are
using what some person did to them as an excuse.
If I forgive to help myself, then my motive is to help myself and not the other
person even if the other person benefits. It is not really forgiving the other
person for the motive is not about her or him.
To truly forgive one has to first let oneself feel the full fury of hate and
anger. This is a healthy part of the recovery process. It is healthy if one
tries to and is open to learning to let it go.
Praying for help to forgive somebody only makes the ill-feelings worse because
it is not the right method. It is not the real starting point. If you try to
keep finding things about people to like and if you treat them like you like
them you are practicing for liking them. You will end up liking them before you
know it. Remember that you never dislike anybody. You only partly dislike them.
See that. That is your starting point. No religion, no mysticism, just
commonsense. Anything else is like giving a person with flu a massage first
instead of aspirin. It makes the problem worse for it's not the right thing to
do.
The Christian faith has people apologising to God for hurting others. The fact
that John was hurt has nothing to do with God for God is not John. The fact is
that God’s handwork was damaged but that is a separate issue. You can’t go to
God and say, “I confess that I hit John and I want you to forgive me”. What you
say is, “I confess and ask forgiveness not for hurting John but for not
respecting your rights when I hurt him”. The Christians have been conditioned to
go to God for relief when their consciences condemn them but in fact they can’t
do that. It doesn’t make sense. This is really about them using religion to feel
better. It is evil to apologise to God for John's suffering. Go to John. The
matter is not over until you forget God and do that. In so far as you prioritise
saying sorry to John's mother for hurting him over saying it to John you are not
sorry for hurting him. So it is with God who the Church says comes first. Only
interfering people would worship a God who they say sorry to as if it were him
they hurt.
Religion says that the love of God and not shame should be our motive for
amending our lives. Again, we see the supremacy of rational Atheism over
religion. Shame is needed for social control.
Conclusion: Even if you think belief in God works for you, do not encourage it
in anybody else. It's dangerous and that's that! It is only helping you despite
itself thus it is not the real source of the help.