Why a Non-Religious Funeral Service and Burial?
The Roman Catholic Mass is the Church's supreme act of worship to God.
The Roman Catholic Church performs the funeral mass or Requiem Mass for the
person who has died.
The Mass is about forging a Catholic community united by the power of the Mass
and the doctrine of the Church. It is a public act and about the Catholic
community and not the general community. That is why the Church says a person
who denies what he knows is the teaching of the Church should not present
himself for communion for it is an insult to the sacrament and the community and
shows bad example.
You should not have a Catholic funeral if you do not believe in the teaching of
the Church.
By definition, the Mass is not intended to honour the deceased so much as it is
God. Or is the deceased respected at all? The deceased is in the background.
Jesus' teaching is that we must love God without reserve and our neighbour
because God commands it. In other words, I only love you because God tells me
to. Your great qualities have nothing to do with it. In the light of such
teaching, the funeral is really about using the deceased to please God. It is
not about the person in reality.
The very notion of putting God first is disgraceful and especially when he
cannot be hurt. Better to love a random suffering baby with all your heart and
not him.
The Mass will leave no room for centring on the dead person instead of Jesus.
The eulogy will be about the deceased's good works but only in the sense that it
is thought that God worked through her or him. The person's favourite songs will
not be played unless they are religious in tone. The readings from a Bible that
may have had no significance for the deceased will be read instead of anything
that really had importance for him or her. Then there is the problem that most
of the ceremony is about worshipping the Catholic version of God. It will say
nothing about morality or personal development - it will just be a pile of
hidebound theology.
And the Mass praises a man who allegedly sacrificed his life for God thinking it
could save sinners. That is fanaticism.
And the Mass is offered on the presumption that the deceased may need prayers to
help get him out of the suffering of purgatory that he faces for his sins. It
accuses the person of having intended to break the law of God. People who
believe God does not make law or does not exist cannot intend to sin. They
cannot sin. Saying anybody is a sinner or implying it is as much hate speech as
implying without proof that they committed a crime. Sin is a crime against God.
If there is no God, hurting others wilfully is wrong but it is not a crime or
sin.
Also, the Mass would make no sense if we don't need a saviour and all will go to
Heaven. Jesus allegedly coming to die for our sins and to have this sacrifice
commemorated and made present at the Mass would imply that our sins are bad
enough to ban us from Heaven. Jesus supposedly took our punishment to let us go
free and live for God. The Mass then is implicitly insulting. The Mass
implicitly rejects any tendency to just take it for granted that the dead person
is in Heaven or will go there. Bluntly, it represents the notion and expresses
the notion that the person might be suffering in Hell forever for their sins.
The Mass is intended to comfort but this comfort should be useless. Nobody who
is thinking straight or mature would seek comfort from a faith that suggests the
person could be in Hell. The suggestion if not made is implied. The implying
suggests that the faith is being manipulative.
And the Mass presupposes that Jesus is alive and raised from the dead - this
doctrine is the core of the faith not love. Dogma matters more to Catholicism
than doing good. Commonsense says that if a person helps the poor it does not
matter what they think of Jesus' alleged resurrection.
The prime reason so many Catholic funerals take place is just because they are
available. The knowledgeable and self-respecting person will have a better
reason than that for letting his or her Catholic funeral be the option.
The Requiem Mass is sickly sweet hypocrisy.
My comments online
People need to ask some questions.
If you are planning your funeral and you are not a believer in Catholicism
though you are of Catholic background then how do you get a funeral that will
reflect your beliefs?
Do you really want a religion doing the funeral that has potentially harmful
doctrines? A religion that says God sends people to purgatory to atone for their
sin but which he will not allow to help themselves? No truly good God would ban
the holy souls from helping themselves forcing them to depend on others to pray
for them. It is obvious that the doctrine is emotional blackmail to make sure
people are pressured to have Catholic funerals. Now the Church has reaffirmed
its doctrine that ashes need to go to holy places so that people may pray for
the dead. God ignores a holy soul in purgatory if she prays for the holy soul
next to her but he listens to some profligate on earth praying for her. That is
bizarre and nasty and twisted.
I cannot encourage Catholic funerals because there are serious ethical issues
with Catholic doctrine not just the ethical doctrines.
The fact of the matter is that in this country that if you are Catholic by
background and labelled as one but are not a believing Catholic that family
members as representing the Church will try to force a Catholic funeral on you.
This media friendly pope signed that decree on cremation which simply amounts to
the Church not minding its own business and you complain that people are hating
the Church? Is it any wonder? If somebody gets something out of having the ashes
at home let them do it. Grieving is a very personal matter. Go and complain to
the pope about the hate in the Bible and Jesus' vitriol against Jewish leaders
who were not even touching him in Matthew 23.
Conclusion
People should have the sense to have a non-religious funeral organised for
themselves. It would give the relatives full freedom to introduce whatever they
really want into the funeral. It would make the funeral about the person not
Catholic theology.